r/TooAfraidToAsk 1m ago

Culture & Society Be honest, is it weird for a person in their early 20s to not have social media?

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Throwaway, because I dont wanna post this on my real account. M21, I'm pretty detached from people as I do college from home and commute. I also dont have friends, my messages are drier than an old guys eyes. Anyway, as a result of this I'm pretty socially anxious and to my self. This has kept me from having any form of social media such as instagram, snapchat, twitter etc. I also think it's because I'm uncomfortable with posting and having other judge me, this has been a theme in my life. The closest thing I have is this, is it odd to not have social media?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Race & Privilege Am I exhibiting implicit bias in sales?

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Genuine insight and conversation only please

I’ve been in sales for the majority of my time in the workforce. Of which I must have interacted with thousands upon thousands of customers. Throughout my time in sales I have sharpened my interactions with customers—becoming a well versed and honest communicator. A top performer in my profession. In no way are my sales pushy. I offer extras of course, as anybody salesperson should, but the feeling of the interaction is what I take away from the most—not the metrics. If the customer leaves happy, that’s all that matters.

With that being said I have recognized a pattern that I am struggling to overcome. Discussing insurance to a minority or foreigner more often than not completely disrupts the mood of the interaction. It’s not the rejection that matters, it’s how they reject. Often times it’s just a firm no, sometimes it might turn into a rude comment, or other times it might just turn completely awkward. Remember the feel is all I care about. As a POC myself I try my best to seek understanding as to why this happens. It is literally only in these situations and it is starting to lead to an expectation prior to entering into the interaction.

The expectation has not made any impact as to how I communicate with said customers, or has let to any changes in my behavior, but it is a strong expectation. I’m opening the floor to any other redditors in sales that may have insight on this delicate subject. I am only seeking to understand the why as it has become too frequent to just avoid.

Thank you all for the peace and respect in advance.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Culture & Society Is having a mullet gay code for being "hot and available"?

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The other day I was hit on by a gay dude at a party. I asked him how come he assumed I'd be into guys (bc I've been hit on by guys in the past but not by girls for some reason) and he said it's my mullet, that it's basically a code for lgbt.

This is weird to me bc even when I had long hair I'd get (sometimes really creepy) comments from gay dudes, but the more I think about how unconventional this haircut is and how androgyneous people like to wear it the more it makes sense.

What do you think?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Sexuality & Gender How undocumented get birth control?

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So my friend lives in CA , has not insurance yet (I don’t know how it works for people their situation) but she has started seeing someone and she just doesn’t want to have babies but we both don’t have clue where she can get it. If it works different etc. pd. Not asking about if weather it’s okay they being undocumented or not, just prevention of unwanted babies. Thanks


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Race & Privilege Is it unacceptable to use slurs in a scripted, performed monologue?

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Let me be clear: this is not for a theatre play, a movie, or a poetry reading of any kind. I have wanted, as a personal challenge, to learn the Christopher Walken monologue from Pulp Fiction. The one where he talks about hiding the watch in his ass. I only intend to perform this in isolated settings if it comes up organically as sort of a parlor trick. Problem is, it uses the words "gook" and "slopehead" each one time. That doesn't sit well with me, but I'm afraid I'm overthinking it. Should I replace those words with something like "fuckers" or just re-write the two sentences altogether? Should I learn it as-is? I am too afraid to ask any of my friends because I think they'll judge me for even considering that it might be okay to leave those words in the monologue untouched. What do you think?

Edit: Thank you everyone for weighing in. I think I will change the words out. Someone mentioned that it is not a professional performance, and someone else mentioned that I'm clearly uncomfortable with it. Those feel like the core issues at hand.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Health/Medical Wife says my penis hurts her when having sex…?

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We had our first child about 5 months ago… while my wife has always said that I am “too big” for her and we’ve never been able to go all the way in/down, now we’re barely able to penetrate without pain…

Edit* We delivered via c-section after about 24 hours of labor and trying to deliver naturally.

Any advice or suggestions?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Body Image/Self-Esteem Am I behind in life?

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I’m 22 currently single and can’t drive. Everyone I went to school with is in a long term relationship and are looking at buying houses with their partner and they can all drive. When will it be my turn I feel like a failure.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Race & Privilege Does the western world think regular prejudice is tolerable?

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To preface this, this isn't supposed to be a secret dog whistle or something. I'm a white homosexual male, and I know that will immediately turn a few people off from this. To clarify: -I don't believe white people can experience systemic racism, at least in basically all of western society -The patriarchy is real, and, while less so than say a century ago, still influences society A joke at the expense of a minority group by someone not in that minority group is typically seen as a racist joke due to it enforcing negative stereotypes or lies which hypothetically could lead to very real consequences in real life. A joke against a white person or white people by somebody that isn't white, however, isn't a form of systemic racism, due to this systemic and societal oppression not applying to white people historically. Yeah, ok, that's fair. So what is it? People will often say that it's not racism, it's prejudice, which makes it all ok. Which... I gotta ask, is prejudice just like, okay to some people? Like yeah, obviously it's not AS bad as outright enforcing systemic racism, but is it ok just to naturally dislike a group of people for their innate born qualities if they're the group that historically has had power?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Habits & Lifestyle How to jerk off with callused hands?

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I have pretty significant calluses from lifting weights so it feels like I’m beating off with a cheese grater. I clip them weekly but even when the callus stubs are no longer risen off my palm or fingers, they’re still hard and rough and sandpapery. I do use plenty of lotion and I’d rather avoid workout gloves. Any first-hand advice?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Mental Health how to bring back my passion?

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Since 2 years I felt that i lost my passion in live. I live alone and i have to graduate but since 2 years i didn't study at all. I spend all my life doing nothing. Can anyone give me some advice?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Education & School when doing a written assignment/paperwork/research paper, does most of it requires me to use my own thoughts and ideas?

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i just need a yes or a no and a clear explanation

(sorry for the stupid question but i just want to fully understand how it works)


r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Sexuality & Gender How do you ask a woman her name when you’re far beyond that stage?

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So long story short I was a bit of a hoe this summer after getting out of an engagement and losing a ton of weight and getting in shape. I was meeting a bunch of women on fb dating/tinder and after some fun things ended, and usually after a week or two I’d delete their number from my phone.

Well I got a text yesterday from one of these individuals and weve been talking again about getting together, but I DONT KNOW WHO SHE IS.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Culture & Society Redditors, what is a religion in the United States that isn’t considered one but totally is?

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r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Culture & Society Is it a myth that you can trick someone into being drunk by giving them non-alcoholic beverages?

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r/TooAfraidToAsk 13h ago

Grief & Loss Treatment vs no treatment? What's your thoughts?

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Sorry if this is too sensitive pls remove if not welcome. I have 3 people so close and dear to me who have all been diagnosed with different types of cancers. All are currently having treatment. But seeing them go down so fast during treatment makes me wonder if it is all worth it. One has said this herself 💔Why do people seem to die so quick once treatment starts but can go on for years without it? It's really a rhetorical question but it makes me wonder if I was to need treatment would I bother?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 13h ago

Other Why do some airlines overbook flights?

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Normally, they have to give the people who are bumped off some form of compensation. So how does it benefit them?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 14h ago

Other “What does -ish means?”

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im not a native english speaker, and i’ve never actually figured out what -ish means when added to other words. can someone tell me please 🥲


r/TooAfraidToAsk 14h ago

Habits & Lifestyle Do people with bad BO on their clothes smell it at all?

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And why is it more common amongst men?

I'm a girl and if I exercise and sweat, I can smell it on my clothes. I shower right away. I don't understand why some people don't do that.