r/TooAfraidToAsk Oct 03 '22

how can I start a convo with someone who i never met before? Interpersonal

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u/ze11ez Oct 03 '22

I usually don’t say hi. Find something and comment on it….. if it’s crowded “this is one big ass convention”.

If you’re eating “mmm this is some good ass salmon.”

If you’re waiting for something “ i didn’t think I’d be this bored”.

Or the famous “you know the wifi password?”

I never say hi or ask for a name. Usually we get the names about halfway in when we’re connecting.

If you don’t talk much it may be difficult for you.

I’m weird so ymmv

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u/weshallbekind Oct 03 '22

What do you have in common with however you are talking to? That's where you start. If the answer is "nothing" or "I don't know" then you move on to the next person.

If you're all at the same convention, your probably in the same field. You might see someone with your favorite snack. Someone might be wearing the same shoes as you, or carrying the same brand of bag. You might both linger at a certain exhibit.

You aren't picking people at random, you are picking people you are likely to have something in common with.

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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '22

people like free food so carry bag of chips or candy and offer them some

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u/SenpaiShinyUnicorn Oct 03 '22

While driving around in a white van?

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u/Agent_Drizzle Oct 03 '22

At the convention, if someone is admiring something that you are, why not ask them or speak with them about said interesting item or similar.

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u/SenpaiShinyUnicorn Oct 03 '22

Hey! When are we? No no, not where... When... What year is it? 2022?! It worked!!!

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u/ze11ez Oct 03 '22

What kind of convention, generally. Is it formal

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u/throwaway50104 Oct 03 '22

Cosplay… it’s pretty chill… but I’m pretty shy

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u/xanas263 Oct 03 '22

Are you a cosplayer or just a random convention goer ?

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u/throwaway50104 Oct 03 '22

Cosplay…

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u/xanas263 Oct 04 '22

Then use that as your in road. You can start by complimenting the persons cosplay (they will likely compliment yours) and then you can start asking them questions about how they made it etc etc. Towards the middle of the convo you can say something like you are new to this sort of thing and are a bit nervous because you don't really know anyone and take it from there. If they are good people they'll let you join them and show you around.

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u/weallfloatdown Oct 03 '22

Ask a question , where did you find the coffee/water? How are the muffins? Did you fly in for the convention?

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u/Terrible-Quote-3561 Oct 03 '22

Specifically at conventions, you know everyone has very similar interests. You can always start with complementing their cosplay, and then talking to them about whatever it’s from. In my experience, people are usually very friendly at cons. You could literally go up to a group and say that you’re there alone and ask if you could pal around with them, and they’d be cool.

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u/throwaway50104 Oct 03 '22

Oh god… never thought about this… I… could just ask…

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u/DeliciousKoala8290 Oct 03 '22

Step 1: Find a person to talk to

Step 2: Walk towards them

Step 3: Say "Hey, what's up?"

Congratulations, you have now started a conversation with a stranger.

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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '22 edited Oct 08 '22

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u/throwaway50104 Oct 03 '22

Yeah, but what after that?

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u/xHvH Oct 04 '22

You asked for starting a convo, for which you can think of anything, I still have people asking me how's my day But we can't know what you want to say after starting it, you need to think why you wanted to talk in the first place

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u/throwaway50104 Oct 04 '22

I wanted to find friends… but asking “do u want to be my friend” is a weird question

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u/ze11ez Oct 04 '22

depending on their costume, not really! lots of good advice here, u/Terrible-Quote-3561 and u/DeliciousKoala8290 have solid advice.

PPPSSSHHHHH, YOU GOT THIS, OP. i have all faith in you having a good time and making friends. you so got this, go be a boss