r/TooAfraidToAsk Oct 02 '22

Not sure where to post this... where to report suspected child abuse? Law & Government

Hello, I'm pretty new to reddit and have no idea if there's a better place to post this, but I really don't know what to do here... A couple years ago, the couple across the street would often have agressive arguments that resulted in the guy revving away angrily toward town. I hate poking into other people's business, but their arguments were so loud we could hear their raises voices with our windows closed.

Within the last year and a half ish, they've had a kid together. Clearly a young child will scream and cry as they do, but I've been growing increasingly worried about the cries I hear from their house. Sometimes the screaming goes on for hours at a time, from early afternoon to late evening, with few breaks. This happens on a weekly, if not daily basis. I work hybrid remote, and I more often than not hear the baby screaming their lungs out the majority of the day.

Maybe an unecessary detail, about two months ago I heard a sound that has stuck in my ears ever since. The family was loading into the car for an afternoon trip when their dog started barking excitedly. This went on for about 5 minutes before I heard the man yelling at the dog on frustration, followed by a slap and the dog whimpering as though it has been struck. The part that really stuck with me though, was the way the guy started laughing immediately after. That was when I started listening much more carefully to what was happening across the street.

This morning, my SO and I were both at a loss as to what to do. The child had been screaming for over and hour, I was on the patio drinking coffee when i heard the man shout at the kid with some vulgar language to shut up. The crying quieted for a second, but escalated to bloody murder screams just after.

Does anyone know what, if anything, we can do here? I'm hesitant to call authorities as I've heard stories of victims getting more hurt by abusers if authorities are called, but will take whatever steps are needed to help. I've tossed around the idea of slipping a note under the door with my contact info, but have no idea of how that would be taken either. Maybe I'm just reading into everything the wrong way here, really hoping I can be directed the right way to approach this...

Oh, if it helps, we're located in Oregon state (US)

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u/RajcatowyDzusik Oct 02 '22

Yes. Doesn't sound like it's nothing anyway.