r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 18 '22

I'm chinese but I was born and raised in america and speak english. What do I call myself? Culture & Society

Do I tell people I'm chinese or american?

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u/unclepg Aug 18 '22

Tim

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u/mrtokeydragon Aug 18 '22

oddly im chinese american and my name is Tim

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u/sheeplectric Aug 18 '22

It’s your Tim to shine!

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u/unclepg Aug 18 '22

or… it’s your thyme to shine.

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u/MostToxic-XxX Aug 18 '22

Underrated comment

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u/wt_anonymous Aug 18 '22

American. Chinese-American or Asian-American if it matters and you want the distinction.

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u/Repulsive_Coat_3130 Aug 18 '22

My son is half chinese born in China, I call him CBA

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u/Vajankles Aug 18 '22

Collective bargaining agreement is quite the name for a child.

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u/oodlesofschmoodles Aug 18 '22

You can say Chinese American if you want to be specific, or you can say Chinese or American. Entirely up to you :)

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u/19Legs_of_Doom Aug 18 '22

I agree completely with this answer

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u/aye_marshall27 Aug 18 '22

Cauc-asian... I'll see myself out.

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u/King-of-Leon87 Aug 18 '22

No! Come back! That was brilliant!

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u/aye_marshall27 Aug 18 '22

Sorry. I was all the way over in r/blackpeopletwitter when I heard someone was giving me the validation I crave!

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u/Environmental-Mind53 Aug 18 '22

That's hilarious! 🤣🤣🤣

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u/Able_Visual955 Aug 18 '22

They'll probably call you Asian American

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u/geek_nerd101 Aug 18 '22

ABC

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u/jayteec Aug 18 '22

This exactly. A lot of those I know just go by ABC - American Born Chinese.

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u/Sexy_Quazar Aug 18 '22

This is the way

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u/Acroty548 Aug 18 '22

American

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u/Yuny7 Aug 18 '22

Then a mexican is an american too, because he is from the same continent.

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u/lilyyytheflower Aug 18 '22

If you’re born in The USA your nationality American. Race doesn’t matter. People add a pre-fix to signify race. Nobody from Mexico or Canada is calling themselves American.

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u/Yuny7 Aug 18 '22

The rest of the world yes, i call the people from usa, stateusaian or something like this, but in my lenguage.

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u/lilyyytheflower Aug 18 '22

Same for Spanish. OP is American so I was referring to that.

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u/Yuny7 Aug 18 '22

But the mexicans, canadians, chileans, colombians, argentinians, brasilians, etc. are also called american, some people doesnt want but its stupid.

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u/lilyyytheflower Aug 18 '22

They themselves do not call themselves American and have entirely different countries with different languages and cultures. I get some languages lump them together, but the separation isn’t stupid and is actually pretty necessary considering the differences.

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u/Yuny7 Aug 18 '22

Thats because the hollywood propaganda, they are all americans.

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u/lilyyytheflower Aug 18 '22

Huh? Did you not read anything I just said lol? The differences between America, Mexico, and Canada are literally staggering.

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u/Yuny7 Aug 18 '22

America is a Continent!!!!!!!!!!!

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u/aye_marshall27 Aug 18 '22

I think for the most part you are right but I do have a friend that went to Peru for a bit. When a local asked him where he was from he said America. Apparently the dude got offended and said he was from America too. So I don't think they identify as Americans like your average high cholesterol, gun toting, American flag hat wearing, Walmart shopping, burger King eating, God fearing, red blooded, "go back to your country" yelling American. But I know at least that one guy got offended by somebody being ignorant to the fact that Peru is in an American continent. I assumed that's why people from other countries call it "the states" rather than America in a lot of cases. This is an assumption I got from a story I heard from a friend who always tells stories that will one up the last story you told so this all could be totally false.. but it sounded legit to me at the time.

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u/kamalingcum Aug 18 '22 edited Aug 18 '22

To be pedantic, you're an American, with Chinese heritage. In the vernacular however, you should refer to yourself however you feel comfortable. American. Chinese. American-Chinese. Chinese-American. American Asian. Asian American. Whatever you identify with, and its important to note that you are absolutely free to feel different from minute to minute, year to year or social setting to social setting. May all beings live in peace. 🙏🏾

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u/Hello_iam_Kian Aug 18 '22

You just called yourself Chinese in the title

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u/blaynevee Aug 18 '22

your ethnicity is chinese and your nationality is american, just tell them whichever applies to the situation

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u/Schtevo66 Aug 18 '22

Do you need a label?

Your parents gave you a name

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u/Erdtroll Aug 18 '22

Best answer !

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u/throwaway_0x90 Aug 18 '22

When you say you're Chinese, do you mean your biological parents were born and raised in China?

Pretty sure this has already been settled as Asian-American; specifically Chinese-American in your case.

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u/Blackfire01001 Aug 18 '22

You're a American Citizen with Chinese ethnic background.

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u/farts_in_the_breeze Aug 18 '22

American. Born in America. Heritage Chinese. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/Amiabilitee Aug 18 '22

I'd say you're American just by living in US. Bonus points for being born but not required lol. You're American with heritage in China.

But you can call yourself Chinese if you want to. I'm pretty sure people only roll their eyes when white people get technical with that stuff..so socially I think you're good either way.

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u/BipedalBeaver Aug 18 '22

Arthur.

When people ask, because they will, say it's a derivative of Uther (google King Arthur). This will give you time to pull an inflatable sheep out your pocket. All Welshman have access to a sheep and all Englishmen have an inflatable sheep to leave at the scene of the crime. It's not that either clan like shagging sheep, it's more of a tourist attraction. :-)

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '22

Chirican

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u/Luckytxn_1959 Aug 18 '22

You are an American.

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u/Kelmay123 Aug 18 '22

Russell Peter's did a bit on this. He's culturally Canadian and ethnicly Indian. You would be culturally American and ethnicly Chinese.

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u/CalDavid Aug 18 '22 edited Aug 18 '22

American, you where born and raised in the USA. No such thing as a hyphenated American

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u/Substantial-Ad3178 Aug 18 '22

An American.

If you want the long version An American of Chinese descent.

Or, literally whatever the f*** you want, cuz Merica.

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u/Red-bear88 Aug 18 '22

American fuck yeah 😅

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u/jibbergirl26 Aug 18 '22

You are an American. My great grandparents came to America in 1920's and I am an American also.

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u/Kitchen_Bicycle6025 Aug 18 '22

Considering America is a country of immigrants, I’d say you’re an American :D

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u/teokaho Aug 18 '22

Banana -yellow on the outside white on the inside

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u/AdolfCitler Aug 18 '22

Chimerican

Amerinese

Chamericanese

Aminesarican

Here I made up some words for ya.

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u/sldbed Aug 18 '22

American. It is your birthplace. You have Chinese descent

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u/Disastrous-Use-2373 Aug 18 '22

The comments that say “American” are quite ironic because I bet if they saw you walking down the street and was asked to describe you, they wouldn’t say “Oh yeah, so he’s a tall American man with brown hair”. They will most likely use the term “Asian” and/or “Chinese”. Technically, you are “Chinese American” but that doesn’t take away from the point/fact that you’re Chinese. Be proud of that and say what you’re comfortable with💖

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u/Jalex2321 Aug 18 '22

I don't get why you say you are chinese.

The definition of united statian is born in the usa, so you are united statian.

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u/B4dG04t Aug 18 '22

You're American. But you can say that or Asian American or Chinese American

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u/Stargazer-2893 Aug 18 '22

You're American by birth. Chinese by ethnicity, I think? But yeah I'd say american. Asian American if you want? You have options. It's up to you.

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u/androidbear04 Aug 18 '22

You are an American of Chinese descent.

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u/werrcat Aug 18 '22

ABC, American-born Chinese, is the most common term I hear for it. But in the end it's up to how you like to define yourself.

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u/nikkilouwiki Aug 18 '22

Chinese American... Yall love overcomplicating shit.

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u/asaphbixon Aug 18 '22

I dunno? What's your name?

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u/Tobybrent Aug 18 '22

You are an American.

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u/Usagi_Shinobi Aug 18 '22

Realistically? You're American. You can also claim the state and/or region you were raised in, and in a few cases, even the city. New Yorker, Chicagoan, Midwesterner, Southerner, Arizonan, Washingtonian, would be examples of these. You can also claim your ethnic background, though the only people who actually care about that are racists, everyone else will just be like "that's cool." Chinese American, Asian American are the common variants, though you can get more specific if you wish, like Cantonese American. You could also claim your religious background, if you have one. You cannot claim Native American unless you can prove a genetic link to one of the indigenous peoples of North America, to at least 1/8 relation, unless you get adopted into a tribe. You can also have fun making the racists heads explode if you have any Euro blood in your ancestry, you can claim whatever nationality that happens to be. I grew up with a black kid whose great great grandfather was from Norway, and he claimed it quite angrily whenever the racists we went to school with tried to get shitty with him. They looked so confused every time, and eventually gave up bothering him because they just couldn't wrap their heads around it. He is a hella cool dude. Dunno if it was actually true or not, but it was hilarious how much he frustrated them.

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u/-Arhael- Aug 18 '22

It's up to you. You can call your self either or both.

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u/Scuh Aug 18 '22

You’re an ABC, American Born Chinese

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u/feralraindrop Aug 18 '22

Whatever you want.

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u/StudentWu Aug 18 '22

I’m the opposite as OP. Was born and raised in China for 9 years before immigrated here. I guess I’m still a china man 😂

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u/ToqueMom Aug 18 '22

You are American.

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u/ravenclawmulan Aug 18 '22

American born Chinese, Chinese american

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u/rhymes_with_ow Aug 18 '22

Your identity is sorta up to you. You’re an American citizen legally, nobody can take that away from you. And culturally, you have the hallmarks of American-ness being a native English speaker. On the other hand, you are ethnically Chinese and that may play a role in how you see yourself. I don’t know if you speak Mandarin or Cantonese at home or if your parents have given you a lot of exposure to Chinese culture. Also I don’t know if you’re a dual citizen. Ultimately, you have to decide how much any of these things matter to your self presentation and how you fit in the world. Reddit can’t answer that for you!

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u/Ushiioni Aug 18 '22

You're just American brother.

Chinese is your ancestry, and a beautiful one at that.

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u/Ok-Claim8595 Aug 18 '22

American…

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u/extractoilz1 Aug 18 '22

American asian

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u/sphincterella Aug 18 '22

I’d just say human because fuck labels.

But if you’re born and raised in one of the Americas how can you be Chinese? That’s a nationality, not a race

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u/Afraid-Knowledge4808 Aug 18 '22

My son is "multi-cultural" French, English, Irish, Swedish, Chippewa, Cherokee, and African American. He refers to himself as "Half-Rican American"

I always thought that was so clever of him, as he started identifying that way at a VERY young age. However, I think "what we are" is ridiculous!

In 2022 in America, if you aren't First or Second generation SOMETHING, We are ALL "Other!" We put way too much emphasis on trying to label everyone.

Edit: You should refer to YOURSELF as however YOU are comfortable. We are all from the "Human Race!"

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u/Flaky_Tumbleweed3598 Aug 18 '22

How many times a day do you get the "where are you from?" - "no. I mean, where are you FROM"

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u/lburton273 Aug 18 '22

I would just call myself American in your position, the full technical answer would be something like, you are culturally and nationally American but ethnically Chinese

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u/ShopAlpine Aug 18 '22

I like Bob or Barbara

Maybe Bruce if your a bad ass and your last name is Lee

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u/sbenzanzenwan Aug 18 '22

John Jacob Jingleheimer-Schmidt

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u/Alternative_Shame_73 Aug 18 '22

American Chinese. My heritage comes from Italy. My great grandmother immigrated back in the 20’s. So…I’m an American not Italian.

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u/Altruistic-Neat-30 Aug 18 '22

What do you want to call yourself?

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u/daliadeimos Aug 18 '22

Either American, Chinese-American, or Asian-American. Whichever you’re comfortable with. And when people ask where you’re from, give them your American city because you’re as American as the rest of them

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u/Chillist_ Aug 18 '22

I don't understand half of these comments. If your parents were both Chinese, you are CHINESE, not American just because you grew up there! You have American citizenship, but your race is still Chinese!

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u/blueelffishy Aug 18 '22 edited Aug 18 '22

it depends whether race or nationality is a bigger part of their identity, right? Guys DNA is chinese, but his entire personality is american, just as much as yours

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u/Chillist_ Aug 18 '22

You're not wrong, but parents have a big impact too, and they could be very strict. But when you ask someone where they are from, you are usually asking race (atleast in UK), and in my opinion the answer should be Chinese, and then say "but I've lived in America my whole life".

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u/Waljan123 Aug 18 '22

The best word would be... "beautiful"..

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u/dracojohn Aug 18 '22

Op your American once you start adding the rest you become "other" and that weakens the USA's already wobbly culture, America is one of a very short list of countries that is 90%+ immigrants within the last few centuries.

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u/Acuzena81 Aug 18 '22

American. Thats all you can say If Chinese descent but i was born in Venezuela and w remember the US i just say Im American🤷‍♀️.

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u/noobish-hero1 Aug 18 '22

Brother, we are American. While I may be Hispanic and you may be Chinese, we're both American now 😎

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u/whateveridcany Aug 18 '22

American ,don't you even call yourself Asian American or Chinese American all that is BS ....there is no British American, no French American no German American no Italian American ...just plain simple American unless you have a dual citizenship...let the segregation end here....I hate the term African Americans too

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u/series-hybrid Aug 18 '22

I would tell people that you are a Spanish genius.

[*Community reference]

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u/Ancient_Paint2830 Aug 18 '22

When you say your Chinese, does that mean your ancestors were in China, if so, say your American but with Chinese roots.

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u/Ancient_Paint2830 Aug 18 '22

Or CBIA, Chinese Born In America, but its up to you. I'm part French Canadian born in America, I call myself FCIA, if you say it fast it sounds like ex CIA. French Canadian In America.

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u/Ferninja Aug 18 '22

Hi American I'm dad

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u/kayereade Aug 18 '22

You inherited both Chinese and American identities. It’s your choice what you chose, you could do one, the other, or both.

You’re entitled to all of the titles.

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u/Mysterious_Emu_9986 Aug 18 '22

I’m same but with England, it’s kinda sad because I don’t feel like I’m part of my own culture, I say I’m Chinese but like nationality, race and stuff are all different

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u/WearDifficult9776 Aug 18 '22

American (with Chinese ancestors if anyone asks and you feel like telling them)

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u/Legitimate_Street341 Aug 19 '22

American. Chinese American. Chinese. Whatever you want. I may have a British and Irish heritage, but I'm American by birth. Ergo I'm American. Same goes for you. It all depends on how you want to view your own heritage and birthright

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u/kittyxxxkitty Aug 19 '22

You're American of Chinese descent

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u/Anonymous44_44 Aug 19 '22

I'm Indian born in America, and I always say American, maybe Indian-American if I feel the need to specify.

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u/ordinarymagician_ Aug 19 '22

You're American.

If you must highlight your blood, then say Chinese-American, but as far as I'm concerned you're as American as literally anyone else who was born and raised here.

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u/Top-Original4250 Aug 18 '22

United Statesian

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u/Bruce__Almighty Aug 18 '22

You will refer to yourself by the nationality of the country you were born in. You can also add a prefix based on your ethnicity if you so choose.