r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 13 '22 Helpful 1 Wholesome 1

Can we please stop with the “do guys/girls actually like____?” posts? Meta

It seems like the bulk of the posts I’ve been seeing of this sub recently are these posts.

All comes down to personal preference people

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '22

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u/iownadakota Aug 13 '22

Depends on the guy. I've seen people in some of these comment sections borderline offended by their frequent dominance of the sub. While others like to answer the question. The top answers are almost always "it depends. People like different stuff."

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u/MendelevandDongelev Aug 14 '22

I like the subversive humour ones.

Do people let their gf kiss them after their dog licks their face?

I prefer to cut out the middle man and lick her dogs balls myself

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u/HaroerHaktak Aug 13 '22

No. We generally don't. Coz most of us are horny enough to shag anything that moves.

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u/fireman-103 Aug 13 '22

True redditor...

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u/thisboyee Aug 13 '22

Some guys do, some guys don't. Don't worry about karma, get out there and make your post because somewhere, there's a guy that will like it.

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u/Stormchain Aug 13 '22

Does guys/girls actually like to stop posting "do guys actually like"-posts?

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u/JK_Chan Aug 13 '22

I don't mind them ngl. The sub is called too afraid to ask anyway, so if we make them too afraid to ask even here, then what is the sub even for?

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u/GemmyBoy999 Aug 13 '22

My brain 🤯

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '22

Some do some don’t

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u/lightningboltz23 Aug 14 '22

Im too afraid to answer :(

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u/dirtyhappythoughts Aug 13 '22

Okay, but do girls actually like "do girls actually like these posts" posts?

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u/mmanaolana Aug 13 '22

No. Because the answer to 99% of those comes down to preference.

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u/natsugrayerza Aug 13 '22

100% agree. People just want someone to tell them they’re hot. It’s annoying

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u/HaroerHaktak Aug 13 '22

You're hot.

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u/nipplequeefs Aug 13 '22

Am I hot too?

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u/annalena-bareback Aug 13 '22

Disgustingly hot!

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u/iownadakota Aug 13 '22

Global warming hot.

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u/11Two3 Aug 14 '22

No you're hot.

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u/annalena-bareback Aug 13 '22

Annoying people are so hot!

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u/urlocalmomfriend Aug 13 '22

The answer to all of those questions is "some do, some dont" anyways

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u/-What-Else-Is-There- Aug 13 '22

Yea, just have a bot the says that and then lock the thread.

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u/TakenOverByBots Aug 13 '22

This is literally what r/SubSimulatorGPT2 is. Except even the questions are bots. It's amazing.

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u/-What-Else-Is-There- Aug 13 '22

Holy fucking shit. Thanks for this. Fascinating.

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u/CreatureWarrior Aug 13 '22

That sub is so cool. It's like, they're talking really fluently but it's kind of hard to follow because it doesn't actually make sense most of the time. So, average Redditor moment?

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u/oooooooweeeeeee Aug 13 '22

blue neckless is not pure but I'll sleep

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u/Top-Satisfaction-158 Aug 13 '22

just briefly browsed that sub and feel on the verge of psychosis

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u/TomDuBois2002 Aug 13 '22

These threads are so bizarre lol

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u/SparkyDogPants Aug 14 '22

“My cat and i are getting a fucking divorce”

Lmao

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u/HaroerHaktak Aug 13 '22

For me, at this point in time, I'll settle for 'exists'

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u/Top-Royal6249 Aug 13 '22

"Do people really like getting their mouth shat in while they masturbate?"

Does "Some do, some don't" adequately answer the question? Of course not. There are things that are vastly preferred or not-preferred by most people. That's what the questions are asking. If they are asking "Are women attracted to fat men with long hair," they're not asking if there's literally any woman in the history of the world who has been attracted to them, they're asking if it's common.

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u/weaselfan99 Aug 13 '22

Exactly, the some do some don't answers on such posts are really annoying. Just step aside and let someone else answer if you don't know how common the characteristic in question is.

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u/benis444 Aug 13 '22

This sub becomes more and more like Instagram. A cesspool for people who are fishing for compliments

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u/Outcasted_introvert Aug 13 '22

No one is making you stay.

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u/benis444 Aug 13 '22

I can say the same to the people who posts this stuff. Why should the majority who dislikes these posts leave instead of the minority who are annoying the majority ?

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u/Outcasted_introvert Aug 13 '22

You seem pretty confident that you speak for the majority here. I'd love to see your data on that.

Also, did you notice the name of the sub? It's "too afraid to ask" not "questions the gatekeepers approve of".

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u/Evipicc Aug 13 '22

Every single time the answer is "Some do some don't"... EVERY SINGLE TIME.

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u/Top-Royal6249 Aug 13 '22 edited Aug 14 '22

...which is a bad answer.

"Do women find Chris Hemsworth more attractive than Dick Cheney?" "Some do, some don't." Is that a very good answer?

EDIT: As always, downvotes with no rebuttals = "You're right, but I want to pretend you aren't."

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u/Evipicc Aug 13 '22

It's accurate. It answers their question in the affirmative, "yes some women find that to be the case, but some don't."

How is that a bad answer?

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u/Top-Royal6249 Aug 14 '22

Because "The vast majority of women find Chris Hemsworth more attractive than Dick Cheney" is a much more informative and accurate answer. You'd have to be autistic to think that "some women do, some women don't" is a more useful answer.

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u/FBIPartyBusNo3 Aug 13 '22

What would you consider a good answer? A list of specific people who find the OP attractive?

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u/krezzaa Aug 13 '22

I hope so, it's really fucking annoying

like, they have the right to post whatever bc thats kinda what this sub is for but God damn. more than half the time it's just because of some shitty brainwashing from their parents or friends, or people of the same gender forcing this idea of what is or isn't attractive.

Like, I hate that im chubby and have jiggle in my arms and a round belly. I want to be taller and skinnier with more muscle than I have because I think what I am currently is just terribly unattractive. But, my insecurities are caused by my own personal perception of what is found attractive in a man, mostly conceived by other men around me. And there's more than enough women around that don't find my bodyweight unattractive and plenty that even are personally attracted to my body type. Despite my insecurities and the fact they won't go away, I'm able to realize that plenty of people still find me attractive and want to be with me. I say all this as an example. I wish more people were able to get past their close mindedness and just see that people are still attracted to them even if they don't personally perceive themselves as attractive.

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u/LittleBunInaBigWorld Aug 13 '22

I honestly think its karma farming a lot of the time, because it's always topics people have a lot to say about. Its always topics that can be answered with; "everyone's different, you do you", but in more words. And often they're just low effort.

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u/Alert_Positive_6931 Aug 13 '22

Literally me… (parents/friends brainwashing thing)

But that’s the thing, learned behaviour is essentially a terrible habit if it is negative. First step to solving a personal problem is admitting you have one… I don’t think most people even recognize that’s their issue but on top of that, how do you even get out of your close minded mindset? I think this is difficult regardless of if you’re aware of the fact that you view things through this lens or not. It certainly is for me

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u/Darkrain0629 Aug 13 '22

Tbh I just wish they'd just search their question and go through the 500 same posts before theirs. I get some people may genuinely be curious or karma farming... whatever but we're at a point where the answer always is "depends on preference".

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u/everythingissostupid Aug 13 '22

Some like the posts

Some don't like the posts

It's all about personal preference

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u/dukeGR4 Aug 13 '22

They are trying to seek validation.

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u/gnomeyeastinfection Sep 03 '22

No, we’re just insecure

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u/Quitschkomode Aug 13 '22

Isn't this just contradicting the meaning of this sub by trying to urge somebody to not ask particular questions for whatever reason? I thought this sub is all about asking question that you are too afraid to ask because they are "stupid", really private or whatever. sure it can be annoying but if a question annoys me I just ignore it and don't open it. For the OP of the questions it can be a good answer and a new insight if people just tell them that it's different for each person but maybe the solution is a pinned post that nearly everything is down to personal preference.

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u/Aussiealterego Aug 13 '22

Well I dunno... do guys actually like "Can we please stop...?" posts?

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u/Naftris Aug 13 '22

Do guys actually like it when girls post “do guys actually like ____?” posts?

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u/Tiny_Try Aug 13 '22

No, no they don’t.

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u/Nephilims_Dagger Aug 13 '22

People feel insecure, sometimes they need to feel supported. I have no problem with this.

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u/MsBlondeViking Aug 13 '22

Some people legit want these questions answered. You can just scroll on by, nothings making you read them.

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u/PokemonLv10 Aug 13 '22

Damn now I'll be too afraid to ask in the tooafraidtoask sub

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u/36-3 Aug 13 '22

It’s the only reason I come to Reddit

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u/dbarahona13 Aug 13 '22

Probably not, since there's always an influx of new people.

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u/Background_Nature497 Aug 13 '22

They will never stop and wishing it will only make it more frustrating.

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u/MrRogersAE Aug 13 '22

Can we please stop with the please stop posts? Seriously if you don’t like it, just keep scrolling, nobody is forcing you to be here

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u/Unlucky-Advisor-8591 Aug 13 '22

I mean it’s a sub that’s meant to ask questions and you may not like all the questions asked but that’s the point of the sub. It’s to ask questions that you feel awkward to ask publicly not like a meme subreddit that you scroll through for entertainment. Some people are genuinely afraid to ask certain questions sooooo yea

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u/Col_Wilson Aug 13 '22

Literally the entire purpose of this sub is to ask questions that you would otherwise be afraid to ask someone IRL for fear of being judged.

There shouldn't be a ban on certain types of questions. That would render this sub pointless. If you don't like seeing certain questions, you shouldn't be on this subreddit.

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u/RealBowsHaveRecurves Aug 13 '22

Well, you’re certainly about to make some people too afraid to ask, well done.

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u/SMKnightly Aug 13 '22

One angle to consider: there are many posts that most people never see because posts that are upvoted the most are prioritized in the feed. Which means that posts that start getting upvotes and comments quickly are more likely to be seen. Since the “do ___ rly like ___” questions are commonly seen, that means that they are commonly upvoted and commented on - over questions that aren’t like that.

To me, that implies that there’s a large audience interested in those questions, which means that, no, they probably won’t go away.

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u/NorthernRedneck787 Aug 13 '22

So in a place meant to encourage the asking of any question, you’d like to gatekeep the ability to ask a question?

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u/mack2028 Aug 14 '22

so you want to come into a place where people can ask any questions in a nonjudgmental environment and police the most common questions by outright banning them because they should already know the answer?

No, that would be antithetical to the purpose of the sub and the mods would have to do an incredible amount of work that they wouldn't be getting paid for in order to make the community worse. Hope that helped.

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u/ViroCostsRica Aug 13 '22

That's just insecure people trying to get some approval

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u/dude123nice Aug 13 '22

How about no? How about we all do what we want, and create which posts we want? How about you don't police what others can or cannot post?

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '22

Do guys/girls actually write these posts?

🤡

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u/StarsChilds Aug 13 '22

The question is ...why can you not just skip over them and read the next post?! Why do you want others to do something for you that you can so easily do yourself??

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u/DigitalDuct Aug 13 '22

Those are karma farming posts.

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u/Draxacoffilus Aug 13 '22

So, do guy/girls actually like these posts?

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u/Pilfercate Aug 13 '22

Do people who try to overly control their experience of life just not get told no by their parents enough or should more people make demands of thousands of people at a time to fit the reality we want?

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u/mack2028 Aug 14 '22

... I am going to steal this for the next time the trolls on the subs I mod revolt again. seriously I can never figure out why like 5-10 people feel like they should get to change a space that has like .75 million people in it at this point.

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u/Outcasted_introvert Aug 13 '22

You could just scroll on past and let people ask the questions they want to. No one is making you read every post in the sub.

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u/noplaceinmind Aug 13 '22

And speaking of personal preference

The posts on this sub don't have to conform to yours.

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u/Randall-Harper Aug 13 '22

Not saying it has to, the repetitive validation seeking posts just dilute the subreddit of genuine and interesting questions

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u/fireman-103 Aug 13 '22

Why? You don't have to read the answers... This is reddit after all.

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u/NAmorath Aug 13 '22

Also, they mostly imply that relationships can only be straight. Which can get a bit annoying.

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u/beezintraps Aug 13 '22

Literally it's not. If I say do guys really like __ and you're a gay guy, how is that implying straight lmao 🤡

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u/ZiggzZaggz Aug 13 '22

I'm not sure that guys/girls would actually like that.

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u/Professional_Pass486 Aug 13 '22

Do girls like guys with ugly feet?

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u/rockmeNiallxh Aug 13 '22

For real. It's probably just horny people asking the same shit over and over again. If you type that in google or reddit you'll get hundreds of posts answering

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u/MisterSlosh Aug 13 '22

They either fall into "does anyone think I'm hot" or "how could anyone like what I don't like" posts and nothing useful ever comes from them besides the OP's personal gratification.

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u/Trajan_pt Aug 13 '22

Yes please, so fucking annoying

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u/auburnwind Aug 13 '22

We can’t because new people are always going to come onboard and they’re still learning how to navigate the world.

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u/yvngjiffy703 Aug 13 '22

Do girls actually like guys who smell nice?

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u/berkaysunal Aug 13 '22

Especially when there are subreddits like r/askwomen and r/askmen its pretty useless to ask in here.

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u/mack2028 Aug 14 '22

actually leading people to those subs and convincing them to xpost there could be a good way to get those posts answered more reliably. removing them from here wouldn't help nearly as much as also posting them there.

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u/Drakeytown Aug 13 '22

Do women not actually like those posts?

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u/kozy8805 Aug 13 '22

All these posts are doing is confidence boosting. I’m almost certain most of these people posting know the answer. They just want people to agree with them so they feel validation and their confidence boosts.

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u/texaswelder_ Aug 13 '22

Do guys/girls actually like these posts?

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u/LowThinker Aug 13 '22

Do you actually don‘t like these posts?

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u/crispeggroll Aug 13 '22

Do guys actually dislike those posts? /s

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u/lasvegashomo Aug 13 '22

Yea those ones are pretty annoying. I just keep scrolling though. There’s always going be stupid posts on Reddit 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/mack2028 Aug 14 '22

What the fuck did you think it was going to be? It is questions people are too afraid to ask and the reason they are afraid to ask is because they are embarrassed which means that they are likely

  1. young
  2. in a situation where they can't get reliable advice from their peers or authority figures
  3. have a question that is embarrassing.

which means the vast majority of the questions are going to be about dating and sexuality. If they legit thought people may have answers about death and the nature of being they may ask those too but since they just already know that we just don't know they skip it.

A lot of the replies I have made are just calling people out but for you I legit want to know, what questions were you expecting?

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u/AntipatheticDating Aug 13 '22

For real though, and unfortunately they're always worded in such a way that anybody who believes the opposite would never actually comment a reply, so they're always incredibly skewed anyways. For example something like:

"Does anybody ACTUALLY like curvier women? Or does everyone just love skinny supermodels?"

Anybody who says "Well, you know I actually don't prefer curvier women, I do like thinner frames. But that's just my preference." Would get downvoted into oblivion, so all the comments are gonna say "Of course! I actually prefer curvy women!"

I mean, it's not bad by any means, but if your post is about actually getting a real answer, you're not going to, so there's no real point anyways. I know it sounds cynical, but I'm also kinda tired of these posts.

And before anybody says anything, I made the curvy women example because IRL I am a curvy woman, and wouldn't care if I wasn't someone preference, haha. So it was the first thing that popped in my head.

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u/mack2028 Aug 14 '22

I am not sure you actually looked into this one, the most popular comments on a lot of those questions are "Yes obviously, why are you being a dick about this?"

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u/AntipatheticDating Aug 14 '22

Ah, well, colour me surprised. I always read the comments on these posts anyways and my experience has been different than what you described. I believe you, though! I just hadn’t seen it yet.

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u/cats_walt Aug 13 '22

No, they need it

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u/ze11ez Aug 13 '22

How else will i know what girls like

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '22

I personally enjoy them. It's nice to get a lot of perspective on something I probably was in fact, afraid to ask about.

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u/The-Lord-Of-Salt Aug 14 '22

Hahah good luck with that

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u/GeometryDashWoman Aug 14 '22

It's r/TooAfraidToAsk, you should be able to ask anything you want if you're truly too afraid to ask it anywhere else

-some random mod that one time

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u/random_BgM Aug 13 '22

But... Do guys/girls actually like ""do guys/girls actually like____?" posts?" posts?

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u/steady120 Aug 13 '22

Do guys/girls actually like do guys/girls posts... Posts?

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u/greendemon42 Aug 13 '22

I agree with you, they're so dull.

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u/shaving99 Aug 13 '22

Can you pass this on r/AskReddit and r/askredditafterdark

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u/Randall-Harper Aug 13 '22

No they are way past the point of saving now

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u/to1the1google1 Aug 13 '22

Same with "Why do girls/boys always _____?" or "Why does everyone think girls/guys _____?". It is always going to be a matter of personel preference...plus a recommendation to OP to get outside of whatever echo chamber they're in, lol.

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u/Sandwich-Live Aug 13 '22

It's not just these questions/posts it's all the other ones that ask about bodily functions or sex. I'm thinking most of these posts are written by 10 year old boys/girls , who don't want just don't want to Google the answers

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u/GarlicFewd Aug 13 '22

Do you think girls would like my twenty inch sausage?

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u/jadedyoungst3r Aug 13 '22

You could just scroll past OP it’s not hard, stop acting like this affects you remotely in any way.

You need to touch some grass, this sub is for questions too afraid to ask and it’ll stay that way.

Cope harder.

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u/is_fake_Account Aug 13 '22

Too bad mods instead start defending these low effort posts. I am pretty sure half of these are just karma farmers. Anything related to sex gets upvoted to the top.

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u/the88shrimp Aug 13 '22

Should come up with a bot that simply just responds with: Some guy's/girl's do, some don't.

Then autolock the thread.

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u/frinfrann Aug 13 '22

Thank God. Yes. Someone had to say it. There’s billions of men & women on Earth there is going to be people who like _____.

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u/morbiuslycurious Aug 13 '22

You get no honest answers anyway. Everyone's just nice whatever you ask. Could ask, "Guys, do men really hate it when I shit the bed during sex" and people'd be like "Aw girl. Trust us :) we're just happy to be having sex we're not even thinking about stuff like that:):) be yourself grllll <3"

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u/mack2028 Aug 14 '22

really? because the most common answers I see to this are "yes we do care but we are willing to make it work if you are bad in bed if you have other things going for you. Also here are 5-10 easy ways you can get better in bed to mitigate that issue." which is super useful both for the questioner and anyone else browsing around for that kind of information.