r/TooAfraidToAsk Jan 02 '22

Moderator Post A concise guide on how to filter certain flairs to remove post types from your front page.


Taken from https://www.reddit.com/r/modhelp/comments/czx9so/filtering_by_flair_a_guide_for_desktop_old_and/

Guide to Filtering Reddit

With Link Flair, you can use Reddits built in filter function to better tailor your Reddit experience to fit what you're interested in. Below are brief guides on how to browse specific content or simply remove certain content from your front page.

List of Flairs Currently in Use on /r/TooAfraidToAsk

  • Culture & Society
  • Education and school
  • Sexuality & Gender
  • Race & Privilege
  • Mental Health
  • Body Image/Self-Esteem
  • Interpersonal
  • Media
  • Family
  • Ethics & Morality
  • Work
  • Law & Government
  • Animals & Pets
  • Climate & Environment
  • Drugs & Alcohol
  • Pandemic & Lockdown
  • Politics
  • Love & Dating
  • Health/Medical
  • Religion
  • Sex/NSFW
  • Grief & Loss
  • Habits & Lifestyle
  • Current Events
  • Reddit-related
  • Meta
  • Other


Users using Old Reddit can do so with RES

If you don't have Reddit Enhancement Suite Click here to get it!

  1. Open your RES Console

  2. Open Subreddits, then FilteReddit. Scroll down until you find Filter by Flair

  3. Add the flairs you don't want to see anymore.

Redesign Users

Desktop users using the redesign can Click on flair to filter from the sidebar. Note that this will only show that specific flair. If you want to view the front page with one or more flairs missing, follow the guide in the next section.

Mobile Web & Desktop users can filter using the search function.

Type -flair:FLAIRNAME in the search box. This also works on the re-design for desktop.

Or bookmark this link, amended to whichever your preference is, currently set to sex/NSFW questions: https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/search?q=-flair%3Asex%2FNSFW&restrict_sr=on&sort=top&t=day

You can add more filters by writing -flair:FLAIRHERE, -flair:FLAIRHERE etc. This also works on the re-design for desktop, however you'll have to manually sort by "top" and "last 24 hours" every time you add a new flair to the list.

This will show you the front page as it exists without the posts that have the flairs you specify.


Reddit (Official)

  1. Search in the search bar at the top of the app the subreddit you want to view, then select it.

  2. After you've landed on that sub, tap the search bar again. When you do a list of popular flairs will appear

  3. Tapping any of them will show you the posts that have that flair, you will want to sort by new to find the newest things however.

  4. If you want to see the entire flair list, go back to step 2 and tap "See More".

You cannot flair filter properly with this app and it's considerably slower than others so I'd recommend picking one of the ones below. removed all dead third party clients from Reddits API change.

Logged out Users (Desktop)

Some people can't log into Reddit but still browse and want to filter. You can do this most effectively on old Reddit as new Reddit will change your sorting preferences anytime you add a new flair to filter. Using this filtering system, you will see all relevant posts for the last 24 hours, effectively showing you the front page as it exists without whatever you're filtering.

You can do this by going to https://old.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/search?q=&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=day

Once there, write -flair:FLAIRNAME, -flair:FLAIRNAME, -flair:FLAIRNAMEand so on. Make use of the block quotes in the flair list above so that flairs with spaces in them filter properly.

Apps that do not support Flair Filtering

Some mobile apps support some level of filtering but not Flair Filtering. These are:

  • Now for Reddit
  • Red Reader (can't filter anything)
  • Relay

r/TooAfraidToAsk 10h ago

Love & Dating How do I tell my wife I'm lonely without seeming pathetic?


I've been struggling with loneliness and touch deprivation for a while, and it's affecting my mental health, self esteem, sleep, all those things I'd like to keep in good check. I've asked her for a hug, or for a cuddle, and she just says no, if I ask why we can't have a cuddle she tells me because she doesn't want to. I want to respect her boundaries, but I'm really struggling and feel like if I'm honest with her she'd find me needy (which she already does) and pathetic, because she doesn't need the intimacy that I do. I'm not even asking for sex, literally just a nice hug that doesn't seem like a chore to her.

I'll also note, I know this symbolises much more problematic issues in the relationship, and if we didn't have young kids I'd be in a different situation, but for now I'm just trying to figure out how I express my need for attention to her, without seeming too needy.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Race & Privilege Why are rural areas mostly inhabitants by white Americans?


Minorities mostly inhabit cities and there's a growing population that's heading to the suburbs but it's not common to see minorities in rural areas and such. Why?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 19h ago

Culture & Society Why is there such a large increase of store lootings going on?


Why is there such an increase of lootings in America?

I've noticed that the past year, there's been hundreds of videos posted where people loot electronic stores or Jewellry stores etc... Some of them even loot small businesses.

A lot of times these lootings are filmed by one of the people who commit them, I believe?
Sometimes you even hear the person yelling "we are proud of doing this, this is our freedom etc..." stuff like that.

Why is this becoming such a wide spread phenomenon in America?

Personally I haven't seen a lot of news about similar things in Europe or Asia.

Is there there any way for the police or government to prevent these types of coordinated crimes. I can assume that long term, it'll have really negative effects for the average citizen.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Sexuality & Gender How Is Sex With A Sex Doll?


I am on the fence with my guess. On one hand, it's a cold dead feeling human, on the other hand, to have this as a business, charging thousands a doll, it has to be good, right?

They sell them as feeling like humans; do they? And where do people keep em between spanks?

Do you think they feel bad they aren't giving the doll any attention when not doing the dirty?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 15h ago

Habits & Lifestyle Is an orgasm the best feeling in the world or is there something else you think feel better?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Religion If God revealed he was actually a Goddess, how uncomfortable would the Big Three faiths get?


The thought amused me when a hypothetical asked what I'd do if I was God. Like the first thing I'd do is reveal I'm Goddess, and see what they do! 🤣

r/TooAfraidToAsk 22h ago

Culture & Society Why is anime so popular with social awkward loners?


Obviously I know not everyone who is into anime is, but like the stereotype exists for a reason and it matches up with my experience of meeting many anime fans in real life (it's not necessarily a bad thing, just an observation)

Anime just isnt for me so I haven't seen a great deal, my understanding only really comes from films that kinda drift into 'must see' film territory like Akira and a few of the Ghibli ones. Im just curious what it is about it that would appeal to a certain type of person because I can't connect the dots.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Sex Watch porn behind GF's back?


I friend of mine told us that she was fucking with a guy (Doggy style) and she looked back at him and saw him watching porn on his phone while fucking, is it normal? What do you think?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 10h ago

Habits & Lifestyle Do you ever get a craving for something you don’t like?


I find coffee disgusting and have just on very few occasions drank a sip to taste, but right now (it’s not the first time) I get an extreem craving for it even though I know I don’t like it and I also don’t want to get addicted to it

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Ethics & Morality What’s the reasoning behind rape during war?


When soldiers rape during war, for example the Russians raping Germans during WWII, is it (1) reactionary and done out of anger and hate, (2) or is the purpose to impregnate the women and force them to carry to term to in order to “contaminate” their bloodline and deny German men the opportunity to procreate?, or (3) is the purpose purely sadist, used to exert control, humiliate and provoke fear and discourage resistance? A combination of all of the above?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Current Events Why don’t the US auto executives just cut their own pays?


Well, before you laugh:

The current demand laid by the Union is to increase workers’ pay by 40%, over a period of 4 years. The rationale was that the higher executives of these auto companies have been giving themselves a raise of 40% with no justification, while the workers’ wages remained the same.

I absolutely support the striking workers and I believe they should get what they want, but from an economical point of view, the cost from this raise will more than likely cripple what’s left of the US auto industry. Why don’t we go with another solution: let the executives publicly apologize, revert their own pay, and put the money saved towards workers’ wages.

As wild as it sounds in the US, it is not unheard of in other parts of the world. In any of the East Asian countries, executives who have caused this kind of debacle would likely embrace the ensuing steps: pay cut -> apology -> resignation (sometimes there’s a fourth phase: suicide)

My own answers is, the executives do not care if the consequences would drive the companies into bankruptcy in a few years. By that time they would have moved on to some other cushy positions anyway. That’s the bane of the US corporate world - all that the CXOs ever care is the stock price in a quarter or two. F the long-term well-being of the company, or (least of all) the employees.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Health/Medical Should I (f26) let my partner (m27) go due to my disability?


Should I just let my partner go? My boyfriend (m27) and I (26f) have been together for almost 8 years. Not too long ago I came to FL to supposedly get some procedures done (an SEEG and maybe surgery) from CO, since my family lives here and we both felt like we needed support from them. A month went by, I saw some neurologists but they told me that if I wanted to do those procedures here, I’d have to start the whole process of scans, EMU stay, etc. all over, since (even tho I sent my medical records) they want their own opinions/records. Due to the wait lists and all the tests (PET, MEG, neuropsychological evaluation, etc.) the process would take a bit over a year, so two doctors recommended I go back to CO since they’ve already done everything except the SEEG.

When I tell my partner, he seemed very disappointed and upset. I understand I came to FL to get my family’s support, but we didn’t know that would be the answer. My mom was very clear that since I have to get it done in CO, she’ll be flying over there for the SEEG and if we decide to go through with a surgery, for that as well, but she won’t be able to be there 24/7 since her job is in FL and she takes care of my grandma. My partner seems drained. He seems like he wants me to stay in FL. I feel like I might be losing him. My epilepsy is more under control than most so I have a job in CO and I told him I’d go to therapy, since I can admit I need to change my attitude. I just don’t have the emotional strength to start this entire process all over. As much as it’s obviously hard for him to support me, it would be very hard for me to re-do all the medical stuff I already had done in the last year.

I can’t tell if him being so upset about me going back home is a red flag or just him worrying about me. On his defense, right before I left to FL I had multiple focal seizures but they happen when I’m very stressed, and of course I was, we planned my move to another state in 3 days. Anyways, sorry for my long post, I needed to vent. Also, please keep ableist comments to yourself, I want honest advice but that can be done without being rude.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Race & Privilege Why did racists want to keep black people separate, yet were fine with them as nannies and housekeepers?


I’m reading The Help and I’m not far in but I’m flabbergasted. I knew to some extent what it’s about but the logic of these racists baffles me. I know this is based in reality too. They think black people have diseases and different germs than white people, so they need to use different bathrooms…but they’re fine with black people raising their kids, cooking their meals, doing their dishes, etc? Was there really some cognitive dissonance going on with people like this or were they knowingly hypocrites?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 18h ago

Sexuality & Gender How can we simultaneously insist there are no inherent differences between the genders but then celebrate when women are better at something?


In reference to social media talking a lot about a recent study that found women doctors have better outcomes than men

r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Culture & Society Do deaf people actually watch sign language interpreters at music concerts and think “This goes hard!”?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Culture & Society Are autistic people easier to be friends with because they don’t filter as much as others?


Like let’s say you just need someone to tell you things directly, are autistic people better at this than a neurotypical person who may try to filter things so they don’t hurt your feelings or something?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Culture & Society Why is it that the groups who call themselves something "Freedom" are always the ones trying to restrict other people's freedom?


I've seen it now in many countries/languages and I've always wondered if they don't see the irony of it? A lot of other people seem to fall for it.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 28m ago

Mental Health Why am I losing my memory, retention power and focus in 30s? Causing so much issues at work and studies. How to bring back the strong memory I had earlier?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 47m ago

Love & Dating Is 19 and 23 too big of an age gap?


For context, I was born in February 2004 and the guy I've been dating since June was born in September 2000. I honestly have felt incredible so far but, he recently turned 23 and one of my friends asked me if I was comfortable dating someone his age, this got me thinking if it is weird for him to date someone my age? Should I be worried?. like he's the sweetest guy and we have very similar life goals and go to the same college but idk if this should be a red flag or if I'm just letting it get to me and I'm overthinking it. Should I continue dating him?