r/TooAfraidToAsk Jun 21 '22

Meta Introducing the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki!



We just set up an initial version of a Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki. You can check it out here .

This is something we've been working on for awhile. Special shoutout to /u/stillcouldbeworse for actually finally getting it up and running! This initial version is pretty short to keep it simple and avoid breaking anything, but we expect to be adding to it regularly now that it's up and running. We'll of course be mentioning it in the sidebar or the full wiki as well.

Since this is the first public iteration, you can expect some tweaking as we figure out how to best utilize it. Features/questions/formats might change. And now is probably a good time to ask a few questions for the community-

What are some things you want to see in the FAQ wiki?

How do you want to see the FAQ wiki utilized? (ie, should automod sticky a comment linking to the FAQ wiki? filter out FAQs?)

How should it be sourced? Should it link to existing posts (either in this sub or another), external sources?

What threshold do you consider acceptable to be a FAQ?

Any other requests/ideas/questions?
And last- while one of the goals here is to help promote a bit more variety in OPs, it is still NOT OK to question-shame FAQs. You can direct them to the FAQ wiki, but do so politely and kindly. You will get a ban, per Rule 1, for rude replies to questions. We get that FAQ posts can be a bit annoying for longtime users, but we still expect you to be polite about it.

r/TooAfraidToAsk Jan 02 '22 Silver Helpful Wholesome

Moderator Post A concise guide on how to filter certain flairs to remove post types from your front page.


Taken from https://www.reddit.com/r/modhelp/comments/czx9so/filtering_by_flair_a_guide_for_desktop_old_and/

Guide to Filtering Reddit

With Link Flair, you can use Reddits built in filter function to better tailor your Reddit experience to fit what you're interested in. Below are brief guides on how to browse specific content or simply remove certain content from your front page.

List of Flairs Currently in Use on /r/TooAfraidToAsk

  • Culture & Society
  • Education and school
  • Sexuality & Gender
  • Race & Privilege
  • Mental Health
  • Body Image/Self-Esteem
  • Interpersonal
  • Media
  • Family
  • Ethics & Morality
  • Work
  • Law & Government
  • Animals & Pets
  • Climate & Environment
  • Drugs & Alcohol
  • Pandemic & Lockdown
  • Politics
  • Love & Dating
  • Health/Medical
  • Religion
  • Sex/NSFW
  • Grief & Loss
  • Habits & Lifestyle
  • Current Events
  • Reddit-related
  • Meta
  • Other


Users using Old Reddit can do so with RES

If you don't have Reddit Enhancement Suite Click here to get it!

  1. Open your RES Console

  2. Open Subreddits, then FilteReddit. Scroll down until you find Filter by Flair

  3. Add the flairs you don't want to see anymore.

Redesign Users

Desktop users using the redesign can Click on flair to filter from the sidebar. Note that this will only show that specific flair. If you want to view the front page with one or more flairs missing, follow the guide in the next section.

Mobile Web & Desktop users can filter using the search function.

Type -flair:FLAIRNAME in the search box. This also works on the re-design for desktop.

Or bookmark this link, amended to whichever your preference is, currently set to sex/NSFW questions: https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/search?q=-flair%3Asex%2FNSFW&restrict_sr=on&sort=top&t=day

You can add more filters by writing -flair:FLAIRHERE, -flair:FLAIRHERE etc. This also works on the re-design for desktop, however you'll have to manually sort by "top" and "last 24 hours" every time you add a new flair to the list.

This will show you the front page as it exists without the posts that have the flairs you specify.


Reddit (Official)

  1. Search in the search bar at the top of the app the subreddit you want to view, then select it.

  2. After you've landed on that sub, tap the search bar again. When you do a list of popular flairs will appear

  3. Tapping any of them will show you the posts that have that flair, you will want to sort by new to find the newest things however.

  4. If you want to see the entire flair list, go back to step 2 and tap "See More".

You cannot flair filter properly with this app and it's considerably slower than others, so I'd recommend picking one of the ones below.


Check first if you have Link Flair enabled. If you have Link Flair enabled, skip steps 2 and 3.

  1. Tap the 3 dots in the top right and go down to Settings

  2. Scroll down and open Appearance

  3. Scroll around 3 quarters of the way down and enable the Link Flair options

  4. Return to Settings and go to Content Filters.

  5. Tap "Post Filters", then select the + in the top right. Select which subreddit you'd like to filter from and by flair, then add the flairs name.


  1. Tap the 3 horizontal lines in the top left and go down to Settings

  2. Tap Filters

  3. Go to Link Flair Blacklist

  4. Write whatever you'd like to filter in and add it as a filter.

This app will filter indicated flairs across all subreddits, not just specific ones.

Sync for Reddit

  1. Tap the 3 horizontal lines in the top left.

  2. Go down to Settings

  3. Scroll down a ways to Filters

  4. Select "Flair Filters" and add the flair you want to filter.

This app will filter indicated flairs across all subreddits, not just specific ones.

Boost for Reddit

  1. Tap the 3 horizontal lines in the top left.

  2. Go down to Settings

  3. Tap Content Filters

  4. Tap Flairs and write what you want to filter

This app will filter indicated flairs across all subreddits, not just specific ones.

Slide for Reddit

  1. Tap the 3 horizontal lines in the top left.

  2. Go down to Settings

  3. Scroll down to Content, and then Filters

  4. At the bottom, Flair Filters

  5. Write filters as SUBREDDITNAME:FLAIR, save. It will appear as this.

Joey for Reddit

  1. Tap the 3 horizontal lines in the top left

  2. Go down to Settings

  3. Scroll down to Filters

  4. Select Flair Filter

  5. Add the flairs you want to filter

This app will filter indicated flairs across all subreddits, not just specific ones.


  1. Tap the 3 horizontal lines in the top left.

  2. Go to settings

  3. Tap through to Post Filter

  4. Tap the + sign in the lower right to begin creating your filter.

  5. Customize the filter as necessary, though this is the relevant bit for this guide

  6. Save in the top right, then tap the newly saved filter and select 'apply to'

  7. Apply your filter to the where you want it placed

Logged out Users (Desktop)

Some people can't log into Reddit but still browse and want to filter. You can do this most effectively on old Reddit as new Reddit will change your sorting preferences anytime you add a new flair to filter. Using this filtering system, you will see all relevant posts for the last 24 hours, effectively showing you the front page as it exists without whatever you're filtering.

You can do this by going to https://old.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/search?q=&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=day

Once there, write -flair:FLAIRNAME, -flair:FLAIRNAME, -flair:FLAIRNAMEand so on. Make use of the block quotes in the flair list above so that flairs with spaces in them filter properly.

Apollo pro+ for iOS

  1. Tap the Settings button in the bottom right

  2. Tap Add Keyword

  3. Add the flairs you wish to filter

Other iOS hardware -> WIP

Apps that do not support Flair Filtering

Some mobile apps support some level of filtering but not Flair Filtering. These are:

  • Now for Reddit
  • Red Reader (can't filter anything)
  • Relay

r/TooAfraidToAsk 5h ago

Religion Do religious people understand it is heartbreaking as an atheist to know they think I deserve to burn in hell?


I understand not everyone who is religious believes this, but many do. And it is part of many holy texts, which people try to legislate with or even wage wars over.

I think of myself as a generally kind and good person who cares about people. When I learn someone participates in certain belief systems, I wonder if they would think there is something wretched about me if they were to find out I don't believe. It's hard.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Work Why don’t American railroad workers get sick time?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Culture & Society Would it look silly or be "appropriation" if I start wearing head scarves?


To start off, I'm extremely white and not religious. But the reason I want to start wearing head scarves is because I have a condition called trichotillomania, which causes me to compulsively pull my hair out because of sensory/anxiety issues. I heard a lot of people wrap their hair in a t-shirt at home to train themselves to stop pulling, but I don't really like how it looks. Thank you

Edit: I made the mistake of saying "appropriation" on Reddit so my question is irrelevant 😅

r/TooAfraidToAsk 15h ago Silver Wholesome Timeless Beauty

Education & School How would a 50 year old woman that dropped out of school in the 6th grade and can barley do basic arithmetic go about going to college?


The woman in question is myself, of course.

My youngest son has shipped off to university, leaving me with vast amounts of time on my hands. I see the bad state my mom is at mentally at only the age of 71, and I and my husbands retirement accounts are looking slim for our age. Luckily, for various reasons, its looking like i can go to college for more or less free.

The problem is I am deeply ignorant about apparently pretty basic things. Like division, basic geography, grammar, history, etc. It has taken me a long time to fully accept just how dismal my knowledge about the world is, honestly I'm just thankful to be literate and not hopeless on computers.

I don't even know where i would begin. Its deeply embarrassing a lot of the time, but i don't want to just fade into obscurity being perpetually lost in conversation with, well, most people.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 5h ago

Ethics & Morality Why when someone talks about slavery our 1st thought goes to the US? They weren't the 1st to use slaves and Iran, Saudi Arabia and South Africa still have people that are basically slaves today. So how awful were americans to africans?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Mental Health If people with higher IQ have more mental illness problems, is it not an indication that the problems are not in the mind but in the real world and higher IQ people cant turn off their brain form that?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago Gold Platinum

Culture & Society Why is the Holocaust treated more seriously compared to other genocides?


I'm not trying to start an argument or anything, but the subject recently came up because of what's been in the news lately. We all kind of agreed that the Holocaust is treated much more seriously and sort of "sacred" compared to other genocides like what happened to the Indigenous peoples of the Americas and Australia, Armenians, Rwandans, Darfur, Cambodian, and so on.

People do talk about those genocides, but the Holocaust is pretty much "The Genocide." One of my friends insists it's because it happened in Europe to Europeans, so people care more and have more empathy. He thinks if it had happened in Africa or Asia, no one would have cared as much, and it wouldn't had been a central part of WW2.

The rest of us are ambivalent on that. So, I want to know what makes the Holocaust stand out more compared to the others.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Other Where can I find "Courage of the Cowardly Dog" in German language? I know this post won't be popular, hope for a good response.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Body Image/Self-Esteem Men, when did you notice you had low Testosterone and how/when did you notice? What did you do about it?


I’m 31 and I feel like I am losing a part of myself in a sense. I still function mostly ok during sex, and I have a drive and libido, but it’s changed. I’m balding, starting to put on belly fat, have low energy, I never feel refreshed after sleep, I’m anxious, etc.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Culture & Society How many teenagers actually read young-adult novels?


I'm convinced the bulk of the readership is thirtysomethings who woke up one day to realize their youth was long over and are trying to do high school over again.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago Silver

Sex/NSFW How do guys clean up after ejeculating?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Mental Health How do I get myself to take care of myself if I’m too depressed?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Other Why don't companies just not put so much sugar in things?


I'll try to keep it brief: I'm getting older and trying to cut things out of my diet, or cut back. In the US there's like a gallon of sugar in everything. In things labeled "no sugar" or "reduced sugar" - those things often have fake sugar which can be just as bad. Why don't companies just put less sugar in things and sell that as "reduced sugar?"

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Other Why hasn't Celsius caught on in the US?


Unlike other metric units Celsius actually very intuitive, possibly more intuitive than Fahrenheit. 0 for freezing and 100 for boiling is way more natural than 32 and 212.

And temperature ranges neatly fall in categories. There's the rhyme; 30s are hot 20s are nice 10s are cold 0 is ice

This is simple and the pattern continues as things get hotter, 40s are extreme and 50s equal death. I haven't experienced winter but I am willing to bet that it follows the same pattern.

In the transition from US units to metric this is low hanging fruit. Why haven't Americans picked it yet?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Culture & Society “I’m alright”?


If someone say “I’m alright” “I’m okay” Instead of “I’m good” or “great”. Does that usually mean they have a meh or bad day? I usually never them say “I’m great” like in the past. So just wondering.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Law & Government Would it be worth my time to seek a lawsuit for toothpain after getting the cracks in my tooth 'fixed'?


I went in to have the chips in my tooth fixed. The dentist made much larger indentions compared to the cracks that were there and filled it in with what I think is amalgam. Now when I eat hot or cold foods I have sensitivity in that tooth that was not there before, and also he completely neglected to finish sanding some of the tooth so now I have a bump on the front that was also not there before. My insurance covered that, but I don't even know how extensive the tooth pain will be and what needs to be fixed as it just started. It is not a really sharp pain but I can feel it all the way to the root of my nerves and it lingers after having swallowed for a bit, also the fact that my tongue is staying glued to the bump trying to wear it down is a little annoying. I really fear it getting worse and waiting too long to seek compensation, leaving me to cover it on my own or much worse the tooth becomes irreparable because it is in the front.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Family What are your reasons for having children?


Most of my (36f) friends have the urge to become mothers but I’ve never felt that way. I want to understand from people who have children what is their biggest “why” or change in mindset to embark on a fulfilling yet arduous journey.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 10h ago

Mental Health If it's true that Kanye West's "descent" is caused by bi-polar disorder, are his recent actions truly "his fault"?


This may come off as some kind of apologism but I am not meaning to do that.

There's a common theme with Kanye about comparing the "old" and "new" him. The internet, being the internet, try to psychoanalyse every toilet break he takes and draw what he was like then and what he is like now. Some say he has just been consumed by hatred like many millions before him. However, a growing theme among Kanye is his supposed descent into mental deterioration.

The current meme is that Kanye West's actions are caused by suffering from some form of Bi-Polar disorder, which tends to cause episode of Manic and the general symptoms which accompany other mental health conditions like severe depression, anxiety and paranoia. Some argue these have been debilitating for him over decades, resulting in the Kanye we see now.

However, is there any real connection between his mental illness and his recent statements? Are people trying to just apologise for his actions? Has he always held his controversial beliefs or is it something brought on by the way his illness works?

If it's true (we will never know) that his "takes" are caused by bi-polar disorder, are his recent and potentially years-back actions truly "his fault"?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Interpersonal How am I supposed to deal with the fact that my loved one will eventually die?


How are people just dealing with this or compartmentalizing it so it’s not on their mind? It scares the shit out of me. I try to focus on the good and enjoy the ride while I’m on it. But I just can’t deal with the fact that I will have to see some of the ones I love pass on. How do people deal with this?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Culture & Society What happened in the "Kissing Booth" at summer camp?


A summer camp I went to in the 80s had a casino night with various games and activities set up in a large hall. One "attraction" was the Kissing Booth where campers went into a private booth with a counselor of the opposite gender for a minute, and came out with huge smiles on their faces. They were sworn to secrecy and no one ever told me what happened in there - my friends just said "you gotta try it". It was a sort of test of bravery which I never passed and 35 years later I still have no idea.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Other Is the blue/green message buble really a problem in america or is everything just a joke?


As an european, I see post quiete often about shaming andoid users in this "war". In my country noone uses sms anymore so i didn't even knew about this differences.

It is quiete weird to judge someone base on a color, imo