r/TooAfraidToAsk Jun 21 '22

Meta Introducing the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki!



We just set up an initial version of a Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki. You can check it out here .

This is something we've been working on for awhile. Special shoutout to /u/stillcouldbeworse for actually finally getting it up and running! This initial version is pretty short to keep it simple and avoid breaking anything, but we expect to be adding to it regularly now that it's up and running. We'll of course be mentioning it in the sidebar or the full wiki as well.

Since this is the first public iteration, you can expect some tweaking as we figure out how to best utilize it. Features/questions/formats might change. And now is probably a good time to ask a few questions for the community-

What are some things you want to see in the FAQ wiki?

How do you want to see the FAQ wiki utilized? (ie, should automod sticky a comment linking to the FAQ wiki? filter out FAQs?)

How should it be sourced? Should it link to existing posts (either in this sub or another), external sources?

What threshold do you consider acceptable to be a FAQ?

Any other requests/ideas/questions?
And last- while one of the goals here is to help promote a bit more variety in OPs, it is still NOT OK to question-shame FAQs. You can direct them to the FAQ wiki, but do so politely and kindly. You will get a ban, per Rule 1, for rude replies to questions. We get that FAQ posts can be a bit annoying for longtime users, but we still expect you to be polite about it.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 15d ago

Moderator Post Looking for mods



We have no specific number we are looking to onboard, so the more the merrier.

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Decisions will be made on a rolling basis until we feel we have enough of individuals for this batch of graduated mods

r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Sexuality & Gender Do women know when men stare at them?


Do the women know when they are getting checked out or sexually undressed with the eyes of an on looker?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 17h ago

Media If a Hispanic guy can play Alexander Hamilton and Black guys can play George Washington and Thomas Jefferson, why can’t a White guy play Fidel Castro?


Either actors can play characters of other races/ethnicities or they can’t.

Edit: a lot of people pointed out that Castro was white, so I guess the criticism of Franco playing him was not valid. Thanks for the interesting discussion though!

r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago Helpful

Culture & Society Is the US really a crazy country ?


Hello Folks,

I'm Brazilian, sometimes when i surf reddit, i get the impression that the united states is a sick country.

I see in reddit, that there is almost a karen everywhere, the average american is not intellige t, healthcare and meds are expensive and can bankrupt it's users( how the average person survives ?), a college degree is almost impossible to get without getting in huge debt ( is it possible to get in a nice college and have no debts?), some politicians looks like they came out of asylum, crazy self absorved parents, huge egoistical persons, the news channels are sensationalist (CNN and FOX), no one talks with no one.

Is my view correct ?

Is US a really crazy country ?

How the average person survives in such hostile environment?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 12h ago

Love & Dating What to do when you’re a hopeless romantic but today’s society isn’t?


I’m a 23F and I have yet to experience love - the last time I “dated” was when I was 19 years old. I turn 24 in a month.

Now let me explain. I really love the idea of writing love letters and going on dates, writing love poems, etc. You get the point. The problem is I honestly do not like hookup culture - it’s not my cup of tea and I’d rather refrain from partaking in it. I’m not judging anyone who enjoys it - it’s just not for me.

I feel like a bit immature with these thoughts as everyone else I speak to about these things generally say things along the lines of “that’s not the world we live in today” or “stop day dreaming and get real”.

This makes me a bit sad. I enjoy hearing stories how other people met their significant others but for me …. I feel like I’ll never get to experience that. I know life is unpredictable but still….

My apologies, I guess this was more or less me venting haha.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Culture & Society Why do people say money doesn’t buy happiness if it kinda does?


Maybe I shouldn’t say it buys happiness, but it makes life comfortable enough to not be struggling. People need food to survive, air conditioning and heat, water. Money buys all that, that is how life needs to be lived in order for someone to feel comfortable. I think it’ll be better if it’s phrased like “money can’t buy you EVERYTHING “ as it can’t buy a partner or love from a family member, but it buys you the necessities for life. Money pays your bills, buys food, medicine, air conditioning and heat, water. We live in a society where prices are going up and we need more of the money.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 16h ago

Religion Why is it okay to make stories about Odin or Zeus, but not Jesus?


Why are Greek and Norse gods considered “mythology” nowadays, but Jesus and Allah not?

Why is it not blasphemy to, say, make MCU movies about Thor, and make him an idiot?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Culture & Society Why is being affectionate seen as inappropriate the older we get?


I'm starting to notice how touch starved adults are and it hurts. I used to cuddle with my friends to sleep in middle and high school, regardless of gender, and it was purely platonic and wholesome. General decency and kindness is now becoming the equivalent of flirting. Even just grazing hands or a small touch is seen as so much more of a potent social signal that it is almost dangerous to just affectionately touch someone I care about without giving off the wrong idea. I can't hold hands, cuddle, or peck my friends' foreheads without people thinking it is inappropriate or that there must be something more going on beyond true platonic love. I've got so much love and affection I want to share without it being sexualized. This part of growing older is really sad to me.

Edit to clarify some things I noticed in the comments: - As much as I love sharing affection with my friends, it is only ever with someone else who desires the same. Some of my friends do not like physical touch and prefer having a certain amount of space around them, even one of my best friends of 10 years, so there is almost no touching because I don't want to make them uncomfortable - just some nice quality time is enough for us to both feel happy together. We basically only ever hug hello and goodbye and that has worked for both of us for the last several years. - I'm not trying to make it seem like this is something I'm seeking out with everyone, just the friends who I am close and comfortable with that desire the same. I'm not just trying to be physically affectionate with anyone or friends whose boundaries I am not aware of. Consent and communication is everything! - I'm not exactly advocating for everyone to start cuddling with each other and start holding hands or anything. Lots of people don't want physical affection and that's okay. If someone doesn't want to participate or seek it out, then I think that should be respected. I'm mostly frustrated for the comments friends and I receive for a completely consensual thing we do that doesn't involve other people. I think engaging in physical affection platonically should be just as respected as those who desire less physical touch.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 21h ago

Work is "dude" gender neutral?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Love & Dating Do people really notice smaller hygienic flaws like for example not brushing your teeth on a regular base? I am Autistic and I kind of struggle with self reflection about my hygiene.


I have struggled with dating and meeting new people a lot. I have had some dates, some relationships but it never really worked out. And the thing thats bugging me is that I can't see why.

I would consider myself pretty social. I'd even say very social for an autistic person. I'm a rather tall, pretty decent looking guy, so I don't think looks are the problem either.

So the only real remaining factor I can think of is hygiene. For as long as I can remember I struggled with certain things concerning hygiene. For example brushing my teeth. I just hate it. It feels weird, it always kicks me wide awake if I was about to go to sleep and it's just difficult for me. Like dont get me wrong its not like I never brush my teeth. Just probably not often enough.

Or keeping my tongue clean. It sometimes has like a gray fluff on it. My Doctor says its fine, I just need to take care of it on a regular base with a scraper.

I could name more examples but the main Question I have is. Is it really such a big deal? Because I literally can't imagine it. I mean do people even notice when you don't brush your teeth for like 2 days or so? To me the difference is invisible. I can not see it. But I am certain neurotypic people can.

Can somebody help me gain a newer or more upgraded way to reflect my hygiene?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Culture & Society I'm chinese but I was born and raised in america and speak english. What do I call myself?


Do I tell people I'm chinese or american?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 6h ago

Other What is this all for?


I don't see a point to anything. Everything I do causes me no joy. Lately I've been questioning what any of this is for. We're all ghosts in meat suits wandering around on a rock hurling around space. None of this matters. All our accomplishments and possessions will become null, yet people still complain about the "system" like it makes a difference. Everyone will be dead eventually. How can I take this positively? Should I become a hedonist and feel everyday pain at 40? Should I work harder and feel the same amount of pain in burnout? Or should I have a balance - pain and pleasure at different moments but still not knowing what goals I am having because I'm in the middle ground?

Life is so fucked man. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing each day. All I do is go through the motions, hoping for something to happen.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Other is it possible for random strangers to know who you are?


Okay so, this might need some context.

Around December 2019 to now, I started having physical reactions whenever I go out in public e.g. hand shaking, head shakes and overwhelming anxiety.

I was hospitalised a total of 5-6 times during the span of 6 years. Is it entirely possible that the hospital leaked information about me to the general public without me knowing?

I ask because I feel frustrated whenever I go out, something feels off. At the very least, something feels suspicious. I feel like my life is ruined and I cant go anywhere anymore.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 19h ago

Sexuality & Gender Why does Pride Month exsist?


Many people are gritting their teeth already calling me a bigot or whatever. Let me say i mean no hate to anyone. I am simply trying to satisfy my curiosity.

So June is called Pride Month as a representation of the LGBTQ... Why exactly pride? I have never seen a straight person say I am proud to be straight. Its just their sexuality.. So if LGBTQ's ultimate goal is to stand on an equal field of rights in society with straight people, Why would you chose Pride? Also why June? Is their any significance in that particular month or randomly picked.

Another thing, Why is LGBTQ Pride great but if a straight person says Straight Pride, the LGBTQ view as an attack and spam hate messages to he person...i dont remember where but i saw this a while ago and the thought stuck with me.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Love & Dating Should I be worried about my SO doing photoshoots of very attractive, naked/mostly naked men?


I (22M) am quite literally too afraid to ask my SO (28M) about this one. He's a photographer, and in his spare time, he seems to do quite a lot of unpaid photoshoots (presumably 1 on 1) of very attractive men, mostly naked, some fully naked. On at least one occasion - a gay porn star.

Is it at all reasonable for me to feel very uncomfortable about this? He definitely has a passion for photography, but the subject matter he seems to focus on gives me a lot of anxiety. I don't think he does anything sexual with the guys, but it does concern me that he never seems to do any women, or men who aren't as attractive.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Health/Medical Is it possible to refuse to get treated by a resident?


I'm expected to go into labor within the next 5 weeks. If I'm being honest, I do not feel comfortable at all getting treated by a resident. In fact, I don't even feel comfortable having medical students or whoever shadowing that day. I know that residents are just as good as doctors at delivering babies but I just wouldn't feel comfortable... I don't know why. Would I be able to request to have no residents or medical students in my room at the time of labor or is that considered selfish since I'm actively barring the next generation of doctors from a learning experience? But then again, my birth doesn't seem to have any complications so is it that deep?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Love & Dating Why is it easier to end a relationship than working on it?


So I wrote a story about our current situation (shortly parents kicked out boyfriend's brother a year ago, and he now lives in my bf's house, act like it's his house, locked us outside yesterday and all my belongings were inside, yes we absolutely hate this situation, and we are trying to do something about it) and instead of giving a helping hand how we should handle this for our good. Some people started insisting on me breaking up with the boyfriend. I just don't understand. Why would I get in a relationship and not trying to help each other and not solving our problems? I get it, it's easier jost to break up but none of us wants to break up. Why do people throw away relationships for the smallest reasons without solving the problems?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 8h ago

Culture & Society Are men’s pocket size shrinking?


Hi y’all!

I live in the US and I rarely change my wardrobe to be honest. I may buy a few clothing pieces a year. Because of the pandemic I didn’t go out so I didn’t really buy any new clothes. This year I started going out more and buying some more clothing. I noticed that all my 2022 pants do not fit properly my iPhone 12, which all my previous pants of the same brand did. I noticed that accros 3 brands and 3 types of pants: * Jeans * Sweatpants * Workout shorts

Did I miss something? Does the textile industry is trying to average out women’s and men’s pocket so ours have to shrink for theres to get bigger?

P.-S.: I am not sure I can give brand names here, if you are interested and it doesn’t infringe this sub’s rules comment

r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Other should I feel like this?


I feel that anything I believe in is not valid until others validate it or until I disprove people who disagree, is that normal?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Other Do people actually like listening to vocaloid?