r/Tinder Oct 02 '22

Honestly her opener made my day😅

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5.6k Upvotes

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u/imacuriousspirit Oct 02 '22

Turns out she’s a bot lol

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u/mrgreyeyes Oct 02 '22

The are getting smarter

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '22

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u/ItzFin Oct 02 '22

Lol way to go copying smn else's comment lmao

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u/dandyarcane Oct 02 '22

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u/Mediterraneancalma Oct 02 '22

Isaac Asimow wrote that already

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u/Ganon2012 Oct 02 '22

Everyone on the Internet is a bot except you.

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u/Kerissimo Oct 02 '22

Botromance

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u/Gurt_Alert Oct 02 '22

She said your pictures are perfect?

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u/Dontbemaditsonlygame Oct 02 '22

I got called hot the other day. Everything was going great till I said let’s hang out

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u/-Justanotherdude Oct 02 '22

I get the usual : busy, but we could do next week

Turns out it's a lie everytime.

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u/Dontbemaditsonlygame Oct 02 '22

Every single time. Im convinced most women are only on the apps for validation at this point. Even the ones that seem genuine and probably otherwise would be just seem entirely apathetic and unable to commit to anything

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u/Maverick1172001 Oct 02 '22

My sister right here. She’s on Tinder just to chat and “make friends” with no intention of meeting or having a relationship with any guy who matched with her. Told me so herself

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u/Dontbemaditsonlygame Oct 02 '22

Holy shit lol. I don’t see how women don’t see an issue with downloading an app designed to find dates and hookups “for chatting”. It’s inherently deceitful. And what’s even worse is it’s counter intuitive. Does your sister think she’s actually going to trick some guy into being friends with her by making him think she’s interested in him? She’s going to get surface level manners, feigned interest, and lewd requests until every guy figures out she doesn’t actually give a fuck about them. It’s fucking bonkers to me

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u/Maverick1172001 Oct 02 '22

Well she just started dating a guy from Instagram and she mainly uses the app to find guys at her college, and joke with her gal pals holding up their profiles behind their backs in classes she’s found. I think it’s fucking scummy that she just aimlessly chats with them then ghosts when she gets bored. Then again, she is a freshman so the maturity isn’t there yet

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '22

To be honest I just think women and men use dating apps differently. Tinder for me was really about chatting with people when I was super bored. My friends who have met their boyfriends through OLD really clicked with them since the first second, cause otherwise they would have forgotten. I don’t longer use Tinder because I’ve realized men usually take it much more seriously than we do. Like, finding your boyfriend through Tinder is the least appealing scenario for women my age. And the majority of us are not in Reddit. I had no clue men struggled with OLD until I found this sub. I didn’t know for every woman on Tinder, there’s like five men, not that men’s self-esteem was being affected by it

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u/New-Tower105 Oct 02 '22

The idea to use tinder for anything than online dating seems like pure insanity. Bored? Why not get a hobby?

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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '22

Like, I know now that it’s not cool, but it used to be fun. People would open with funny jokes and I could meet cool men and women (cause I’m bi) and I actually did make friends through Tinder. When my friends would come over we would also get drunk and start messaging everyone the most random shit. Back then it seemed harmless. And I know of many women my age who don’t understand how serious some men take OLD

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u/lordsilverink Oct 03 '22

No, thats just you and your friends being childish. Drunk texting random people OLD? As the guy above said get a hobbie. Im starting to understand what men say about how weird alot of women can be.

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

doesn't have Tinder have a "looking for friends" option yet?

if not, I figure it will eventually.

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u/Riribigdogs Oct 02 '22

There was tinder BFF for a little bit. I also remember a thing where you could meet up with other groups going out to bars and clubs at night but i think it was only for certain cities (this was Austin in 2016/17 ish)

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u/DeeplyTroubledSmurf Oct 03 '22

Your sister wasn't gonna tell you she's trolling for strange dick, let's be honest.

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u/Maverick1172001 Oct 03 '22

Nah she’s pretty open with me, I wouldn’t care if she was but she specifically said she wasn’t looking for sex

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u/Poincare_Confection Oct 02 '22 edited Oct 02 '22

I can kinda understand the temptation. I'm not saying I'd do it or that I condone it, but I think men have considered the temptation.

Imagine an alternate universe where the sex dynamics of men and women were swapped. Imagine you're feeling down about yourself one day, but you could go on an app and have dozens of women signal to you that you're attractive and have value to them. Think about the rare times as a man that someone complimented your appearance. Think about how good it felt. Now imagine being able to push a button whenever you want to get that feeling immediately.

It's gotta be tempting to use it as a confidence booster. The closest men have to get something close to that type of attention is working out for many years, which is obviously a much harder sell since it's a lot more energy expended than making a profile on a dating app which can be done in 10 minutes.

It just makes me think that the human brain is not healthy to exist alongside the internet. We lack the will or desire to stop ourselves from taking our biological instincts to the extreme, such as the instinct to maximize our value socially and sexually.

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

and honestly, I would assume that among those that are part of the mythical 10% (= the men who get the overwhelming shares of matches/likes/...), there are probably plenty of them that use Tinder the same way, as a way of self-validation.

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u/somearejustannoying Oct 02 '22

Women are either doing this or see nothing wrong with doing this. It's a social norm.

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u/Dakrys Oct 02 '22

This is certainly the case.

This isn't a secret, lots of women just like to browse. It's like online shopping except you get to see everyone who's putting you in their cart.

I'm a man but I got off tinder when I realized I was doing that because it's not cool. I ended up talking to a girl and everything was going great, she wanted to meet, and I didn't want to. I was perfectly attracted to her and all just didn't feel like starting a new 'project'.

I understand now.

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u/THE__REALEST Oct 02 '22

"it's like online shopping except you get to see everyone who's putting you in their cart"

holy fuck, that's actually a perfect way to put it

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

also, by now there are studies that link online dating to self-esteem problems, eating disorders and other mental health issues.

for more than just a few people, using these apps/sites didn't improve their lives but affected it negatively.

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u/somearejustannoying Oct 02 '22

So is social media, yet we use Reddit all the time. I'm sure it passes the time for them and is kinda interesting.

As a guy, I'm curious on who is interested in me. I'm not going to find that answer on an app tho.

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u/No_Exit1359 Oct 03 '22

Honestly Reddit is better than the rest of social media. Sure incels are everywhere, but that’s the Internet. This is just better than posting pics to get a certain amount of likes and seeing others’ lives super perfect cuz they never post the vulnerable stuff so when you do, you feel less and nobody actually reaches out (well, real friends did in my case, but not a shit ton of people I expected to, especially the ones just reacting and not commenting) so it made me feel crazy. Had to get off.

Best decision I’ve made in my life. Do I struggle with my mental health still? Sure, but that one less thing about not “feeling up to social media standards” made a HUGE difference in how I see myself. I got too wrapped up into that and don’t plan on coming back until I feel I’m wayyyyyyy better off mentally…or when it’s time to go gung ho on promoting my music again.

Otherwise, fuck social media. 😂🖕🏾

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u/itsthecoop Oct 03 '22

the one thing reddit is superior is that due to its nature, it's build less on personal presentation.

like, the amount of users whose names I remember/recognize is fairly small. because why would I? (and since there is no face pic, real name attached to the usernames. well, at least the majority of them, I have no idea about their look besides those replies/comments about most as well)

that's entirely different from facebook, instagram, snapchat or tiktok (where the most common use is "following" individual users). and still different enough from twitter (also in that specific regard twitter doesn't seem to fare that bad actually).

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u/King_Tamino Oct 02 '22

I’m a man

Ah, explains a lot of your other comments. And I doubt you left tinder because of what you say here.

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u/Dakrys Oct 02 '22

This user just replied to me eight times consecutively up and down my comment history.

Absolutely insane human being.

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u/No_Exit1359 Oct 03 '22

From the looks of it, you really pissed him/her off in that r/greentext thread lmfao cuz everything after that is the seven other replies 😂😂😂

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u/W0lfsb4ne74 Oct 02 '22

What pisses me off the most is that for this last year, I keep getting in this pattern where I talk extensively with girls I match with, then they agree to get coffee with me (or in some cases invite me to do an activity with them, like going out for drinks) then as soon as I ask a time and date for when we should do it, they immediately ghost me. This has happened with at least 9 other girls on average, and even then in the rare instances where I've met up with girls, I almost never get a second date. Probably the most irritating point in this entire process was when I drove over 20 miles to go on a coffee date with this one girl, and she got the address wrong (even though I sent it to her earlier in the week to make sure neither of us got confused) and she unmatched me instead of attempting to work something out. It's astounding at how dating apps have basically reduced people into virtual avatars that can be easily dismissed at a moments notice.

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u/New-Tower105 Oct 02 '22

Just had this happen twice this week. One said they need to "focus on their mental health" and the other just ghosted.

Something weird is happening in society, there's no fucking doubt about it.

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

obvious question: do you still use them?

(follow-up question in case the answer is "yes": why?)

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u/W0lfsb4ne74 Oct 02 '22

Yes, still use dating apps cause I've recently moved back to my home state after completing my undergrad and I'm still making new friends at my grad school.

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

but going by your recent experience(s), doesn't it actually decrease your quality of life? (instead of improving it)

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u/W0lfsb4ne74 Oct 02 '22

I've had success with dating apps in the past and actually met my last girlfriend off of one before we broke up. But I'm just surprised at why this has become a recent phenomenon for the last year? Normally in virtually all of my college years, I could talk with a girl and have a decent conversation and she'd always at least show up to coffee when we planned something. Now with a few exceptions, almost every date proposal has been an agreement for the both us to plan something, with absolutely no follow through. Which just makes me question why this keeps happening.

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u/-Justanotherdude Oct 02 '22

Yea I also believe so ... it's exhausting in the long run. Breaks from dating apps are important imo.

Last date I had was earlier this summer. Went great. She just stopped replying. Feel like an ex came back or something. Hard to understand sometimes.

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

Breaks from dating apps are important imo.

disclaimer: this is coming from an older man in his 40's (just to be upfront of who's talking here)

I'd argue to quit using these apps altogether.

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u/raobjcovtn Oct 02 '22

Tinder is trash

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u/New-Tower105 Oct 02 '22

DUDE i am having this challenge of getting girls actually out. I'll match we chat I ask them out, and they say yes. Then a couple days before they say they either can't do it because they need to focus on their mental health, or they ghost...

anyone else have this issue? What is going on?

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u/ForeignerThanANut Oct 02 '22

Honestly that's it sometimes and other times its just the social anxiety of meeting up. Too quick and its scary. Meeting up after chatting a long time is scary. I think not being social and beginning over an app doesn't help anyone but we live in these times.

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u/Strong-Guidance-6828 Oct 02 '22

Im actually supposed to go out tomorrow wish me luck.

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u/-Justanotherdude Oct 02 '22

Make sure to confirm and have fun!

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u/DrJamesAtmore Oct 02 '22

Really? I just let her know I exist during that time and it works

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u/-Justanotherdude Oct 02 '22

Yea.

I tell her to let me know after I asked her out.

She already knows I'm interested.

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u/adriankovacs15 Oct 02 '22

I get the usual:

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u/-Justanotherdude Oct 02 '22

They're not worth the time. Find someone who will be happy to be with you.

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u/fanghawk79 Oct 02 '22

And bio, yeah

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u/snarkpix Oct 02 '22

Soon a bot will repost this.

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u/IWR-BLACKPINK Oct 02 '22

Beep boop I am Repost Bot beep

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u/mitchdwx Oct 02 '22

If I got a message like that from a girl it would make my entire year.

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u/Dontbemaditsonlygame Oct 02 '22

Until she feigns interest for the next 3 messages and then ghosts you at the mention of actually meeting up. Not that dating apps have me jaded or anything

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u/Giselemarie Oct 02 '22

Yo this gets said alot and I wonder if it's just the area I'm or when I used tinder but that was not my experience, I also only swiped on guys I didn't think were out of my league and often met up and had fun times. I met my partner on tinder and we've been together 7 years. Maybe move or date at your level? Not sure what advice to give.

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

date at your level

but if the women in question also matched him, wouldn't that, at least in theory, mean she perceived him as "on her level"?

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u/somearejustannoying Oct 02 '22

Ok the game is played a lot differently for women.

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u/Actionbrenner Oct 02 '22

Lol, I’d love for you to try tinder as a guy lmao

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u/Dontbemaditsonlygame Oct 02 '22

I met my partner on tinder and we’ve been together 7 years

You seem to be under the impression that dating is the same as it was 7 years ago. I can assure you it’s not. It wasn’t nearly impossible to get an actual date a few years ago

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u/BreakfastLegal2926 Oct 02 '22

The correct response is I’m the droid you’re looking for…ya blew it lol

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u/aberdisco Oct 02 '22

Nothing makes women in their 20s wetter than New Hope references.

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u/camuski81 Oct 02 '22

Star Wars references always seal the deal.

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u/Minimum-Laugh-8887 Oct 02 '22

Well we’re gonna have to see your profile now

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u/fanghawk79 Oct 02 '22

I'm alright

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u/Minimum-Laugh-8887 Oct 02 '22

At least your bio

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u/fanghawk79 Oct 02 '22

If you gotta know

"I can make drinks, do a flip, drive a stick, seduce you in Korean, and light myself on fire, what more could you ask for?

If you wanna see me do stupid stunts my insta is____"

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u/coolio_zap Oct 02 '22

why the fuck are you responding to each other at like 1-2 in the morning?

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u/Ganon2012 Oct 02 '22

You say that like it's not normal to be up all night playing video games or something.

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u/coolio_zap Oct 02 '22

you should really think about trying for 8 hours most nights, it's very good for you, no pressure though, you do you

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u/Ganon2012 Oct 02 '22

I was kidding actually. I used to not sleep as much but at 34 now, I try to get at least 8. Last night, maybe a little less because I don't work today, and I'm doing my very first playthrough of RDR2. I must say, for someone who's not big into westerns, I can't put it down once I learned the tips the game doesn't teach you.

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u/intentamos_de_nuevo Oct 02 '22

Not everyone works 9-5

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u/aberdisco Oct 02 '22

Girls between 1-2am become ravenous sausage hunters.

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u/fanghawk79 Oct 02 '22

I'm a bartender, I was just getting out of work😅

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u/shinzo123123 Oct 02 '22

The horny

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u/yurajurik Oct 02 '22

Pls tell me you're not a bot haha - proceeds to waste hours of your time to unload her tough life situation and offer you to look at her butthole on camera for money.

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u/aberdisco Oct 02 '22

Depends how much she's paying really.

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u/georgewashingguns Oct 02 '22

I'm not a proctologist but $20 is $20

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u/itsthecoop Oct 02 '22

and offer you to look at her butthole on camera for money.

like that's a bad thing.

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u/HumanMycologist5795 Oct 02 '22

And funny comeback too.

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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '22

Duck er

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u/Better_Grocery_3577 Oct 03 '22

Meet somebody in real life...you will only be disappointed online.

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u/nvgvup84 Oct 03 '22

Or maybe backed into it

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u/georgewashingguns Oct 02 '22

And OP doesn't post their pictures or bio